Wow.. So long never post le.. It's either I am busy it I am lazy.. Wadeva zy it is, I m here to post again
Haiishh.. Love have many theory.. And ever since I step into relaionships, my view of love keeps piling up.. Hearing stories, experiencing, seeing etc.. The 'knowledge' just keeps adding...
And soon after, I start seeing the bad side of true love...
Many youngsters go into relationships not understanding wad is love.. They blindly believe wad they deem as "love at first sight"... I see this girl chio/I see this guy cute, I like her/him... It's as though love is just "I like your appearance"...
Many only notice what is the true 'must haves' in love at a later age, which by then, they might be hurt deeply.. One of such 'must haves' is, understanding... Manyatimes, youngsters get together without understanding about one another.. This is where dating comes in... You go out with each other, either in groups or one-to-one, and have fun... Only true fun, you can see one's true self.. Cos otherwise, it's just an act.. The "I must be presentable in front of her/her" comes.. In the end, everything is staged...
Understanding is the KEY to true relationships as you MUST be able to know each other well to do the right thing together.. Say for example: give the right surprises... You do not want to give the wrong flower, whereby in the end that girl might hate that flower or worse, be allergic to it...
Next is trust.. Couples argue most of the time, especially when jealousness steps in is mainly because he/she don't trust the other party... If I m suppose to trust my gf, I wouldn't mind her talking or going out with other guys, cos I can trust her enough to not betray the love... Some sort like that...
To me, love is like a game.. A game that you r not the player, but one of the chips.. The game plays you... When it's happy, u meet... When it's happier, u become good friends and get close... When it's even happier, u get together... If not, even if u are willing to DIE for that girl/guy, both of you can NEVER get together... But after that, u r on your own...
Getting together might be hard.. It takes courage, a little bit of trust, and whole lot of luck... But maintaining it is harder... It takes skills, a whole lot of understanding and trust, and many of communications.. That, is what the current youngsters lacks...
But as some of you might know, the hardest us yet, to forget a true love... As some might say.. It takes a sec to like you, an hour to love you, a day to get close to you, a week or so to jio you, but a whole life to forget you... It's not easy...
Now, what is true love to me, you might ask... True love is when someone loves another person sooooo much, he/she is willing to give almost anything to her/him... It is when being with him/her is the Happiest days of his/her life... And when he/she can trust her/him soooo much that if ever he/she jumps off a cliff, he/she know she/he will be there to catch him/her...
Love is a strange subject.. You can never fully understand it even if u have been through it the whole life x100...
Nowadays, love is like a lie... Everyone says "I love you"... But not everyone mean it... Maybe they do for that moment, but loving is NOT as simple as just saying 3 words (though it seems to already be hard to say those 3 words), it requires a lot of acceptance and tolerance... You must FIRST accept the person for who he/she is, and not say, I want her/him to become like this, think like this, or even walk like this... He/she is what he/she is... Changing that fact will just make him/her not him/her anymore... Second is tolerance... It's not easy to tolerate someone especially he/she is different from you... In terms of thinking, family background, kinds of friends, character and many more...
If love is such an easy task, people will not be DYING to love... Including DYING for the sake of LOVE...
Drama as it is, true as it seems...
All these I have said, is LOVE in my eye... Good or bad, it's up to you... Getting hurt is the last thing you want to happen to you.. think wisely before you start a relationship.. Or you will be played by the game called "LOVE"...
At the end of this, I just want to say... No matter how much you change, you are still you.. I love you for who you are, and I will tolerate all your "nonsense"... I duno if u know who I m referring to, but I love you last time, and I still do now.. I won't force you to change, and I won't tell you those 3 words.. It's nicely kept in my heart, till one day you discover who truly loves you.
Just be yourself, cos that's the true you!!!
With LOVE,
FeRdy
